Enjoyed reading this blogpost that concludes (go ahead and read the rest)
The problem with your marriage is your heart. It is not your wife’s lack of submission or your husband’s insensitivity.
God has set you up with a spouse that will constantly fail you and test your heart. As far as you are concerned, God is focussed on your heart reaction, not your spouse’s selfishness. It is up to God to deal with your spouse. Their willingness or unwillingness to be the husband or wife they are supposed to be is a matter of God’s judgment on their life. You have no stake in the matter.
You have a huge stake in your heart reaction. And you have a HUGE stake in the question of your resentment or bitterness toward your spouse.
So, get over the fact that your wife is a tyrant and your husband is a jerk. Get serious about your heart response. That’s the only thing you have to care about.
A sister prayed earlier this week for me in an email that I would be stretched. Well, I was stretched yesterday by work. And today this has stretched me about my marriage. It’s not all about her. It’s all about me, and it’s my heart that is being tested every time.